Here is today’s post on my other blog, Journey to Self Compassion. This topic is one of those things that sounds so easy to do, but is one of the most difficult. Yet, to change outer circumstances in your life, you must start with the inside… Be well!
02 Jan 2014 1 Comment
So many of us believe true happiness should come easy, handed to us free of charge, or that it is elusive and reserved for the selected few. When we do manage to grasp it, it is temporary, lost again to another external circumstance.
We blame the circumstance for stealing our happiness and believe we could be happy “if only.”
Ironically, it is in the cold, bitter winters of our lives where all is seemingly barren around us, that we unearth the true meaning of happiness. We must dig deep inside for strength, and in these times of introspection, we discover happiness is an internally driven condition without dependency on external circumstances.
Where we once sat around blaming winter for not blooming flowers for us, we now know how to find the warmth of the fire in the coldest of winters.
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Life is good…even if it is covered in coffee stains.
My daughter was working on a report on my computer, and I happened to have a full cup of coffee next to the computer. She bumped the coffee and some of it splashed on my computer, but the majority of the spill landed on her papers. (My computer is fine except the ‘five’, ‘six’ and ‘dash’ keys no longer work)
After my daughter’s gasp at the unexpected accident, she calmly got up and grabbed some paper towels. She then dabbed the coffee off of the papers, and carefully placed them on the kitchen table to dry. The only thing she said was, “Sorry, I didn’t know that mug still had coffee in it. The papers are coffee(dash)stained, but my teacher can still see all the work is done.”
Wow, where did this girl come from? If she cried over spilled coffee or got angry that I left a full cup in her work space, I would have understood. But she did none of that. No matter whose fault it was, the situation was what it was. She took responsibility for herself and the situation was handled. Life was still good, even if it was covered in coffee stains.
We adults have acted with less maturity then my 8(dash)year(dash)old girl. I know I have! Sure, our problems might be equated to a scalding pot being poured directly into our laps. And, ouch, that is going to scar! Yet, no matter who did the spilling or why, the only thing we have control over is our own reaction. It’s up to us whether we want to linger in the mess, and surely we’d be justified in doing so, or we can dab it up the best we can and move on.
Or, wait, maybe the lesson to be learned here is to quit drinking coffee? But to me that would mean not really living. So, back to where I started: Life is good…even if it is covered in coffee stains.