What’s in it for me?


(Photo: Wil at his first Buddy Walk and the wonderful University of Michigan gymnastics team volunteers)

I was recently on the receiving end of a jealous rant. I was blamed for many of this person’s troubles and problems. It left me feeling sad and exhausted.

The sad part is, this blame game and “what’s in it for me” thinking leaves us empty and forever craving more. Even if we do get what we want, it then turns into the thinking of “what have you done for me lately?” It is an unfulfilling, vicious cycle.

The paradox is, if we put our focus on helping others, without the focus on our due reward, that is when we are rewarded. And when we do the best we can to improve our own lives, without comparing ourselves to others, blame becomes a non-issue and we find satisfaction in our own accomplishments.

So, what I’m trying to say is, if you fall into this trap of blame and “what’s in it for me,” know that it is a black hole that leaves you craving more with no end in sight.

Reach out to someone else without concern of what’s in it for you. Enjoy helping others simply for the sake of helping. Only then, will you truly receive the benefits of what’s in it for you, and find a certain peace in your heart.



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