Lift Me Up

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Last night, I went to our Down syndrome support group’s Moms Night Out.

As I sat there amongst these women, I thought, this should be called a “lift me up” group rather than a support group.

Certainly, this group offers much support, but when I think of support, I think of being held up so I don’t fall. Not a single one of these women was falling.

Here were all these moms together, raising a child with Ds day-to-day.  We come from different backgrounds, have different ages and numbers of children, some of us work outside of the home full-time, some part-time, some work fully from home. We are an eclectic mix of women brought together by an extra chromosome.

Yet, with all our differences, the atmosphere around the table was the same. There was laughter, sharing of stories, and camaraderie. Sure, some challenges came up, but there were knowing nods of agreement. The nod that says, “hey, I get it and we all are in this together” is like the best hug in the world.

Other than the gift of Wil himself, his extra chromosome has brought so many extras in my life, and these women are one beautiful extra I’m thankful for.

It is said  “it takes a village,” and I am lucky enough to be part of a village made of these caring, strong and proactive women. There is strength in knowing we are all in this together, cheering our kids on to live fulfilling lives and to shatter the limiting stereotypes.

There are still too many people out there that just “don’t get it.” As much as individuals with Ds are now self-advocating and achieving, people still limit our kids by throwing out the word retard, and put limiting thoughts and words on what they believe our kids can achieve into adulthood.

Listen to me closely, our children look up to the same sky as any other child does, and that sky is their limit just as it is for any other child.

Our kids may not reach the sky in the same way as other kids, but they can and will reach it if we stop limiting them with our thoughts and words.

There is a young man with Ds named Tim, who with his parents, runs a successful restaurant. The key to the restaurant’s success: Tim gives the patrons hugs. People come from all over to get a hug from him. He does help with other duties at the restaurant, but my point is, in his own way, he has made this restaurant a success. Tim and his parents are “no limit” thinkers.

All of us are limitless, we simply reach the sky in our own way and in our own time.

Keep the limits from your mind and your words, to benefit yourself, and to benefit those around you.

All the best,



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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kodiak My Little Grizzly
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 12:43:33

    Yeasts ready while at noodles (in my blog) a mom whose little guy as DS was standing there in the over crowded place waiting for a table and food… I was so completely wishful we were further along in our meal. Kodi was standing by me as I poked Mac-n-cheese into him. When she finally got a table and we were leaving I gave her a hug. I told her she was doing a great job and that I understand how difficult life can be. I hate people staring and not saying something to us when we have a sweet special child. So I just had to let her know. Come to find out her older son knows my older son from school. I was glad I spoke up! Support comes in so many forms! 🙂


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